If you've left your wordly side and an angel offers you the chance to return to life, whatever you do, don't come back female.
|Every woman is the victim ... Menopause is not selective. Cruelly, all women will experience it. Many thanks to Mehrdad Haghighi and Unsplash and the models for the image.|
For women, girls, we should have an annual international females' day where every female of whatever age is awarded a handsome present, say five thousand smackeroos or so, not that even that would be sufficient compensation.
My concern here is over menopause, though the gender suffers much else besides. However, a woman in the grip of the change of life is what I have just witnessed – almost an hour of it.
|Irritability is a demeaning word, laughably imprecise when what I actually feel is a bright, ascendant rage. - Sarah Manguso|
I knew the host some years ago. What a pleasant, calm, generous, hospitable, and very attractive soul she was.
Our host's in her late forties now. We were chatting and sipping tea when she suddenly presented the worst example of menopause suffering I have ever seen.
Tearing off her clothes
She leaped up from the sofa and began tearing off her clothes.
She cried out that she was 'on fire'. Moments later, she was physically shivering from 'the cold'. The clothes were hastily returned.
She launched into a speech filled with criticism, almost hate – government, neighbours, the council, medical services … you name it.
Then the vitriol gave way suddenly with a remarkable change to the opposite.
We learned of her daughter's impressive school report, of the child's helpful nature … and for some minutes this sudden switch from wild criticism to homely praise flowed.
Our host was, is, a victim of menopause. Her body is, well, being de-sexed and she to an agonised, tormented being.
It was a tragic scene, and worse because no-one could offer some medicine that might help. It seems there are no miracle cures, that science has found nothing to help.
And yet, astoundingly, every female human is suffering from, or willsuffer from, or has suffered the menopause torture.
Fortunately, most don't suffer quite as badly as this lady.
Nature offers no quick change. It can last for a year, and it might continue for more years until, well, the desexing is completed.
The latest online version of New Yorker magazine, once a print favourite, carries a piece by Sarah Manguso, ' Where are all the books about menopause?'
She writes, 'Menopausal rage is more than a symptom of disappointment at not being fertile or conventionally attractive or socially powerful—although it may be those things, too.
'It is brought on by the waning of estrogen, which in turn reduces serotonin production.
'Serotonin is believed to be the mood regulator whose sudden absence causes the anger … Irritability is a demeaning word, laughably imprecise when what I actually feel is a bright, ascendant rage.'
It seems astonishing that modern mankind has no answer for Nature's gross cruelty and madness. However, today's experience reminded me very guiltily of other gross examples of Nature's cruelty of our fairer gender.
Seen a new teen suffering her first period? Watched as I have the process of a woman giving birth to your baby?
Today's very worrying experience left me thanking Nature for my gender.
If there might be a hereafter and we are offered the chance to return, I know my reaction: No, no, no, definitely not if it means I must be female.